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There is a sad tendency loosing touch with people as time goes by so older people seem to have less friends. Of course the reason of that is not death of people its more like time erases them from our hearts. The problem is that people just don’t seem to try to save relationships or put at least any effort into saving them, of course it is much easier to let everything go itself and let friendship be ruined with time or distance. According to survey results the relationships which were acquired during college years are the strongest ones. Also it is estimated that separation of people is the most spread reason of depression, solitude and low level of life.

If two friends don’t speak to each other for a long time and one of them wants to restore their relationships the first thing he has to do is analyzing what could bring them to that point. Everyone’s character changes with time that’s why normally friendship can’t be perfect all the time. There can be very many reasons of break down like different points of view on important questions, moral principles, relationships with other people and their influence or simple a negative attitude caused with a bad mood. These reasons can be absurd and childish but situation gets very serious when it is anything connected with personal values or treachery. The starting point of connecting two people is finding major reasons of break down because further actions depend only on them.
After the causes were determined it’s time to find right words and manner to motivate both sides to resolve their confrontation. A person needs to realize that it’s not a time for finding mistakes or taking one’s side, he has to think impartially and logically. It is of great importance to what was the biggest offense of each side and then use it during the conversation as a target to alter the conviction of the friends.

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Friendship can be mistaken for comradeship. Comradeship is the feeling of affinity that draws people together in time of war or when people have a mutual enemy or even a common goal. Former ''New York Times'' war correspondent Chris Hedges wrote:

"We feel in wartime comradeship. We confuse this with friendship, with love. There are those, who will insist that the comradeship of war is love &m dash; the exotic glow that makes us in war feel as one people, one entity, is real, but this is part of war's intoxication. As this feeling dissipated in the weeks after the attack, there was a kind of nostalgia for its warm glow and wartime always brings with it this comradeship, which is the opposite of friendship. Friends are predetermined; friendship takes place between men and women who possess an intellectual and emotional affinity for each other. But comradeship – that ecstatic bliss that comes with belonging to the crowd in wartime – is within our reach. We can all have comrades."

As a war ends, or a common enemy recedes, comrades return to being strangers, who lack friendship and have little in common.

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In the sequence of the emotional development of the individual, friendships come after parental bonding and before the pair bonding engaged in at the approach of maturity. In the intervening period between the end of early childhood and the onset of full adulthood, friendships are often the most important relationships in the emotional life of the Adolescence|adolescent and are often more intense than relationships later in life. However making friends seems to trouble lots of people; sometimes going years without a single friend can lead to suicide.

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